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Kids are all completely different animals (literally), and as parents we try our best to get them successfully to adulthood. After re-reading the blog for the 4th time (still no real citations or scientific conclusions in there), I stand true to my original statement. My boys were, and are, obedient to both of their parents, I Own It Forever The Tittle Mother Shirt, plus their grandparents and adults. It hasn’t made them weak, targets or lacking in self reliance. They also don’t expect participation trophies or to make a travel sports team just because they show up.

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Discipline fits into various categories, e.g. Running into traffic is not negotiable, whereas eating all their dinner is negotiable. It’s all about teaching appropriate behavior, so children can determine what is appropriate and when to say no. We don’t want to raise children who can’t think for themselves. I wish all moms and dads good luck in raising boys and girls who are successful and happy in their adulthood. It’s not a competition- we all have the same end goal. Agreed. You have to suck it up and do what your employer tells you to do (within limits) so I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have your child suck it up and obey certain priorities.

Take it down to the simplest daily event: I say go to bed. The correct answer from my kid is, ‘yes mom’. It’s not up for discussion. There’s no need. Not because he’s afraid of me, but because we’ve established that I am the authority in this house and have a better grasp of how a growing boy can be successful the next day.  I actually disagree with your statement completely. If a child is yelled at all the time they are less likely to pay attention when u yell. They tune you out. But if you discuss things reasonably and they never year you tell and one day they do hear you yell they will know for certain you mean business. The opposite is true in my experience.

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Isabel is completely right. My son trusts me, so when it’s an emergency he knows I’m serious and he complies. Not just out of blind obedience.  In an attempt to raise good people, we/ve focused on the wrong thing. We’ve equated obedient children with good children, and it’s not working. A hyper focus on obedience kills curiosity, creativity, independence and assertiveness in our kids. Obedience runs counter to a brave and bold.  But who are the makers, doers, creators, artists, entrepreneurs and discoverers? The obedient or the free thinking? The Game Changers are adults who, as children, were either raised in free thinking homes, or broke free from the confines of limiting and controlling homes.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not rely on your own insight. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” -Proverbs 3:5-6. Any advice on how to do this with a nearly teenager who has been spoken to calmly on numerous occasions, decisions have been explained so she knows why we think what we do (mostly for her benefit, like why phones are charged downstairs at night following evidence of her messing with it after lights out and then not being able to get up for school!) and all we get is confrontation, stroppyness, sneakiness and lies. I really am trying the calm method but it’s so hard when you don’t get a calm response!

My children are younger but I know where you are coming from x All I can say is don’t beat yourself up and seek some outside support.  Maybe she resents having your decisions imposed on her, even with the explanations, people generally don’t like to feel that they are being controlled. I Own It Forever The Tittle Mother Shirt.  A nearly-teenager is old enough to be involved in the decision-making process, I would discuss the problem with her and ask her what her ideas are for resolving it. I know this to be true because I remember what it was like to be a child who was forced to be obedient.